Go Fish: How To Communicate More Effectively And Attract More People To You
Go Fish, isn’t that a name of a popular children’s card game? Nope. Not in this article.
Here it’s quite a concept!
It’s not what I expected or perceived it to be especially in the context of communication. I learned this little but POWERFUL communication tip from best-selling author, Melody Beattie.
She related this advice which came from one of her teachers who taught her about effective communication. Her teacher imparted this wisdom as a lesson in communication within the context of fishing. She said, “When you fish, find out what level the fish are at and what they’re eating.” So to be successful at fishing, you engage this strategy.
The expectation for most people trying to create a niche or business online embraces the most parroted phrase in network marketing, and for some the ever mythical and sometimes elusive Attraction Marketing. To a certain extent, it refers to the idea that people will come to you, adapt to your point of view and to what you want to talk about. However, if we go beyond that description and follow this go fish metaphor, you’re more likely to reach a wider range of people, be more effective, and be interesting (or attractive) when you learn to go to them and become the ‘INTERESTED.’
During a strategy session with one of my coaching clients, I shared that it’s important to get out of your house (literally your house or virtually, your blog), in order to meet and engage with new people. Share what you know and your passions, and be not only interesting but also interested in them.
There is a higher probability that they will follow you back to your blog when you impart value, and when you invite them over to your virtual home or they may even take the initiative and just pop over on their own.
Be the interested party who asks about their likes, interests, personal growth journey, hang-ups, etc… During this interaction you’ll both learn what makes you tick, your common interests and effervescent differences. It’s by being aware of differences and learning to value and appreciate them that you discover the distinct qualities that you offer to the market place.
Melody Beattie says that, “often [when communicating], especially if we feel insecure or need to control, we [tend to not feel or] won’t be comfortable unless people agree with us.” If that’s the case and if talking to people is as painful as the thought of a drill digging into your back molar, then Go Fish.
For some people it takes practice to make small talk or chat all the while being comfortable with showing your true self. When communication is key to your success and essential to achieve your goals, then embrace the habit of going fishing especially if you’re meeting a new person or attending a meeting. You’re more likely to learn new and phenomenal things that can propel you beyond your limits and the limits others have set for you.
My advice is to
Go Fish and to
Do it often!
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